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https://bit.ly/3NsvEmP https://bit.ly/36V2wnw https://bit.ly/3DiNWCm https://bit.ly/3tPE67C https://bit.ly/3iGPAEm https://bit.ly/3IOpM3L https://bit.ly/3Nvzrj3 https://bit.ly/3ISbOh8 https://bit.ly/3tNX5zJ https://bit.ly/3IQ3hLR Most people would not want to be part of something likely to attract huge disapprobation so BDSM is the safe option. Moreover, success breeds success, and the more well-known and acceptable BDSM has become, the more likely it has become that anyone interested in relationships in which there is an element of control will investigate BDSM. But not everyone involved in BDSM is at heart BDSM. I myself assumed that I must have BDSM inclinations many years ago, because there was nothing else out there at the time that I knew of. This seems to be a common experience of those who are drawn to Taken In Hand. People try to squeeze themselves into the BDSM shoe, but it doesn’t always fit very well. http://drill.lovesick.jp/drilldata/index.php?getgrants%201 http://toracats.punyu.jp/diagnosis/canine/index.php?getgrants%201 https://www.dokuwiki.org/ja:syntax#%E3%83%86%E3%82%AD%E3%82%B9%E3%83%88%E3%81%AE%E5%A4%89%E6%8F%9B https://www.dokuwiki.org/mailinglist#dokuwiki_user_forum https://webhitlist.com/profiles/blogs/web-list-link-building-3 http://playit4ward-sanantonio.ning.com/profiles/blogs/get-government-grants-assistance One of the reasons I often say that I hate to be put in a box or labelled as being BDSM, DD, D/s, TPE or anything else is that I think that tying oneself down to a particular defined box tends logically to exert pressure upon oneself to become a better fit for the label instead of forging one’s own path. Often, people are very much in the process of exploring their nature and preferences, and evolving a better understanding of these things, and in that case, defining themselves can impede the evolution of the self-knowledge that could be so extremely valuable to them in the long-run. It is much easier to discover and develop your own unique preferences and ideas if you aren't stuck in the mire of a lot of fixed ideas. BDSM is very good at being inclusive and tolerant in some respects, but I find it terribly rigid and fixed in other respects. Some of the most heated criticism I have had on my article, When rape is a gift, has been from BDSM people. Individuals who consider themselves BDSM have started their own forum on consensual ‘ravishment” because they have been shunned by the BDSM community. Visit any BDSM forum and you will see tedious amounts of arguing about protocol, who may address whom and how, who has been “in the lifestyle” for how long (the implication being that those who have been BDSM for the longest are likely to know more or be more right in their ideas than those who have not), people castigating one another for incorrect form, and lots of stress on how to become “a better submissive”. With its tendency to have quite rigid protocols, assumptions and fixed ideas about how people should interact and what it's all about, BDSM is bound to feel stifling to anyone who wants to explore their own preferences and ideas in this sphere in an unfettered way.
