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https://bit.ly/3Epm4Lv https://bit.ly/3ErsOZG https://bit.ly/3qj63lt https://bit.ly/3mqvBfw https://bit.ly/3mryVH8 https://bit.ly/30P4B1p https://bit.ly/32rLE5g https://bit.ly/3sqrgMY At least I know what I'm looking for now. On the original post: "Without over-explaining, I began firmly correcting her inappropriate behavior at the first sign of sarcasm, defensiveness, or inappropriate accusations, while making sure to provide support and tenderness just as quickly as her behavior improved". That is what all a lot of submissive women need. (Although spanking too is fun - I keep it as fun, not real punishment but obviously people differ on that and I would accept someone who kept proper punishment rather than play punishment, in reserve if fairly exercised and never in anger). When I've been in a Taken In Hand relationship (and I've never lived with someone in one although from being married so long I think I know quite a lot in general about living with someone in the real world) the desire to please usually means you don't need a lot of being told what to do to comply but it needs to be there and I like and need some rules and standards. I expect to be respectful and I am not happy if things aren't pointed out but the last man I was seeing often just had to raise an eye brow or whatever. Can be quite subtle depending on mood. My husband and I share each other sexually with other people all the time and it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with not being careful or honest or faithful. I trust my husband with everything, my life, my heart, everything. Why? Because I know he would never lie to me. I know he would never purposefully hurt me. Does it bother me that he wants to share me? No, I like it because I know it means that he wants other men to know how wonderful I am and that he has security in our relationship that what we do with our bodies is no threat to our relationship because what we have means something more than sex. What we have in our relationship means more than a promise not to have sex with anyone else. I don't know if your husband understands what Sam wrote in his article but I know my husband does. That is why he didn't cheat on me, he came to me and said that he would love to have us be sexual with other people. Not only did it not damage our relationship, it deepened our trust and openness with each other in ways that I could not have foreseen.
